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They planned to wed at Boston City Hall and then take in a Celtics game. Their friends intervened.

This DIY backyard wedding in Cambridge was planned by everyone except the bride and groom

Carolina Rodeghiero and Felipe Soares enjoyed a wedding reception organized by friends in a Cambridge backyard in April.Amanda Macchia

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In April, with their Cambridge wedding reception coming up, Carolina Rodeghiero and Felipe Soares had no idea what to expect.

They knew the location and date — and the wedding cake flavor, notes Carolina — but otherwise had had no role in planning the celebration.

Originally, April 4 was to be a special, but simple, day: make their commitment to one another legal at Boston City Hall, then head to TD Garden for the Celtics game.

“I was like, OK, we can get married, go to a pub right there, and then go to a game,” Carolina remembers telling Felipe. “Everything is just so close.”

As grad students on their first date, Felipe remembers admitting his feelings to Carolina before they even entered the restaurant. "I thought he was very brave for his age," says Carolina. Moments later, they shared a first kiss.Amanda Macchia Photography

She was living in Cambridge, working with MIT’s Lifelong Kindergarten program — the MIT Media Lab research group that explores ways to make education more inclusive and accessible — where she’d been exploring pedagogical perspectives since 2018. While her colleagues had never met her London-based boyfriend Felipe, they knew of him.

To reveal their intentions to wed — and how she would arrange to cover her work during her absence — she held a meeting.

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“They immediately started crying,” says Carolina.

They cried at the idea of Carolina marrying her best friend. They cried for a happy ending for the on-and-off romance between the academics that finally circled back to “forever” that January.

"The first time we dated, she actually told me that she didn't want to get married, so that changed," recalls Felipe. "But, also, I told a friend at some point that I didn't want to get married, too — unless it was Carolina."Amanda Macchia Photography

But when Carolina shared their plans for a City Hall-TD Garden double-feature, tears gave way to an intervention.

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“Our friends decided, ‘No. You cannot go to a Celtics game. We’re going to celebrate this,’” says Carolina.

Felipe, now a lecturer at the University of the Arts London, fell in love with Carolina in 2014. They were students at Catholic University of Brasília, where Felipe was pursuing his master’s degree and Carolina was in the midst of her PhD.

The romance was a surprise. They had known each other for a few years — first as friends in a volunteer organization in their hometown of Pelotas, in Rio Grande do Sul in southeastern Brazil, then as peers in the same research group during their graduate studies.

But when a friend told Felipe he’d had a dream where the pair were dating, Felipe realized he’d been dreaming of the same thing: “It was just really clear to me.”

The newlyweds and their friends rode the T from Boston City Hall to Cambridge, for their reception in a friend's backyard. Amanda Macchia Photography

Around the same time, one of Carolina’s friends casually asked whether she’d considered dating Felipe.

“I had never thought about that,” Carolina says, “but then I never stopped thinking about it.”

They got together at a friend’s birthday not long after — five hours of “nonstop” chatting that tuned out the 200-person party and stretched into the morning. And “even after talking for so many hours I just wanted to be around her for longer,” Felipe says.

They set their first date for the following Saturday, but unable to wait, they met that Wednesday instead.

Members of the School of Honk, including friends of the couple, performed at their backyard wedding reception and led guests through some dance moves.Amanda Macchia

The romantic relationship was short-lived, though — Carolina is five years Felipe’s senior and gaps in generational and life experiences soon got in the way. Plus, academic pursuits were their north stars. Carolina headed to Boston for her post-doc, Felipe went on to earn his PhD in Porto Alegre, Brazil, followed by a fellowship in Toronto.

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But connection persisted. They shared beers and cheers for birthdays over WhatsApp and video calls; they turned to each other for advice — both scholarly and personal.

“[With Carolina] I learned that love could be nicer and we could care for and trust each other. We can touch base and say, ‘I’m doing this, but not because you need to know everything that I’m doing,’ but because I care,” says Felipe. “It was being friends first.”

Felipe spent a week prior to the wedding getting to know Carolina's Boston community during his visit. "[By the wedding] it felt like they were my friends for years," he says.Handout

Their stars realigned this January in Pelotas over the holidays when Carolina met Felipe for a beer.

“The next day, he was already [at my house] with my family, playing cards,” says Carolina. “And almost immediately, I bought my flight tickets to visit [him in London].”

And on that trip, he proposed.

They originally planned for a November wedding in Brazil — but neither was keen on a long engagement. So, when Carolina spotted City Hall availability during Felipe’s upcoming Boston visit, they agreed it was meant to be.

On April 4, nearly 30 witnesses packed into the City Registrar’s Office at Boston City Hall to watch Carolina and Felipe say “I do”; 68 more friends and family members watched on Zoom. London friends in “fancy dress,” a teacher in Ukraine, former classmates in Brazil, and Carolina’s family, who had put Zoom on their living room TV and watched the ceremony while wearing smiles and suits.

The couple and their guests took selfies in the DIY photo booth.Handout

“Half of my family couldn’t understand anything,” says Felipe with a laugh. “The other half could, but all of them were there, watching and trying to get some sense of what was going on … just seeing the effort of everyone, to be there, to be together, was amazing.”

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Rupal Jain, Carolina’s research director at MIT, hosted the reception in her backyard. Beyond requesting a strawberry vanilla cake, the couple didn’t have to do a thing; friends contributed talent, time, and financial means to throw a wedding for 39 guests with all the bells and whistles. The event was not only a celebration for the newlyweds but a send-off for Carolina, who relocated to London late last month.

Contributions ranged from videography to floral arrangements to 96 vanilla macarons made by Rupal’s daughter, Jiya. (“She spent the whole week baking them.”) Friends serenaded their entrance with kazoos and shook up Campari Spritzes; they ate shrimp cocktail and lasagna.

"It's like putting the most creative people in the world in the same room," says Carolina of the group of friends and colleagues who planned the reception. "They put so much of their heart in it and so much creativity." Amanda Macchia Photography

Carolina and Felipe were in the photo booth as sounds of brass and bangs from the street grew louder. Moments later, 21 members of the School of Honk marched into the backyard, wearing their signature polka-dots and wedding day best.

They led the couple and their guests through dance moves on the patio-turned-dance floor. (Three of the bride’s close friends — Carmelo Presicce, Sean Hickey, and bridesmaid Lily Gabaree — are Honk members.) With Honk amid the revelry and a bouquet toss to be won, the labor of love continued through sunset.

“I think the wedding project made so much sense to people because it was about a couple celebrating,” says Carolina, “but also celebrating what we care about and what is important in life — that is love. That is friendship."

Read more from The Big Day, The Boston Globe’s new weddings column.

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This story has been updated to correct an error in the location of the university Felipe and Carolina attended in Brazil. It was the Catholic University of Pelotas.


Rachel Kim Raczka is a writer and editor in Boston. She can be reached at [email protected].